4 Valuable Life Lessons You Need to Hear

This episode explores the significance of various quotes that impart valuable life lessons. We reflect on the meanings behind these quotes, discuss how they inform our experiences, and the importance of embracing challenges and growth.

Transcript

Speaker 1 0:08

welcome back everybody. I'm chad trees, that's lacy moores, and this is the secret sauce podcast, and I think we got a good one for you today. Uh, I am excited about this one. I am, I'm a quote junkie. I think you are too. Um, and so we came up with this idea. I've some of the best podcast episodes that I've been listening to lately is kind of what inspired this. Some of the best episodes I've really enjoyed lately is just talking about some quotes and like how they apply to life, what, what they really mean and, um, what you can get out of them. What, what, what benefits can you see from different quotes?

Speaker 1 0:44

right so that's probably.

Speaker 2 0:46

Well, have you ever been like listening to somebody and not just a motivational speaker or just anybody really kind of telling a story and explaining things, and then give you a quote and you're just like yeah I gotta write that down. That was good, right. I mean, sometimes we don't go back right and like look at them or read them again and they might impact you differently than they impact me.

Speaker 1 1:08

Right.

Speaker 2 1:09

So when we talked about this, it was a good idea, because it's fun, we can unpack them.

Speaker 1 1:12

Right, so I think this will be kind of a quick episode. Yeah Well, maybe We'll see. We got four quotes we want to break down and we hope that at least one of them lands with you. We hope that at least one of them lands with you gives you a little impact. You want to start with the first one.

Speaker 2 1:26

No, you do it, it's so good.

Speaker 1 1:28

All right, I heard this one the other day. I'd never heard it and I heard this quote and it definitely resonated with me, and that is the loudest boos like sporting event.

Speaker 2 1:43

the loudest boos come from the cheapest seats, cheapest seats. I hear it as haters like right, the loudest haters, who's gonna complain?

Speaker 1 1:47

but they come from the cheapest seats, like that is so good right and I think for me, like, what it made me think of immediately is, like critics like this, we're putting ourselves out there doing a podcast, uh, videos that we film, like you know, you have to already have overcome that and people, um, or people that hate on how much business that we do, oh, they're not that good, or those numbers aren't real or whatever. Right, there's always, you always have haters in life, and I think it's just the perspective of Should those opinions matter to you? Should we listen to that? Should those opinions matter to you? Should we listen to that? And I think just the concept of the loudest boos coming from the cheapest seats is just a good reminder that those loud boos are probably the things you should listen to the least. They're the least significant and, honestly, if people aren't booing you, then you're probably not living big enough, you're probably not doing enough.

Speaker 2 2:44

So true. So let me take just another spin. This last weekend my cousin ran in a marathon and our whole family went to Chiramon and it was downpour first of all, and we're like stopping at all these stops at Chiramon and I'm watching some of these people run and I'm like are they running? What is that? People run differently.

Speaker 1 3:12

There's some weird runners out there.

Speaker 2 3:14

I've never been to a marathon, so I'm doing my little judgmental thing.

Speaker 2 3:18

You're judging Four hours. We're at the finish line, we pull in, I'm sitting in my car with my mom and my son and there's some people getting ready to run through the finish line. Now, these were four older ladies, probably not really in shape, is what I would say? That you would think to be running a marathon? And I'm thinking to myself wait a second, I'm so confused. There's no way they ran a marathon, because my cousin, who's 20, like, hasn't made it through yet. So what's going on? I didn't realize that people can run a marathon or a half marathon at the same time. So, first time, I have no idea. Um, but these thoughts are going through my head as they kind of run through. I'm having all these thoughts and I'm sitting in the cheap seats right there.

Speaker 2 4:10

I'm sitting there in the cheap seats judging these women who are out there running doing something big doing something big and I'm not, yeah, and so what's really cool about this is they go through the finish line. I'm just being real here like I'm a human, and this is exactly like I'm. I'm somebody who probably had a boo when I shouldn't have and I was in a cheap seat. But they came around, they were all wearing the same shirts and couldn't read them until they were in front of my car and I see the back of them and it said, uh, 50 states, 50 half marathons, and then like a little hashtag that they were doing so it's even bigger.

Speaker 1 4:52

Not just running a marathon or a half marathon. They were doing it over and over, like what a huge thing to be accomplishing and you were sitting there hating on them so I'm sitting there having just these thoughts, right, that people just have, we all like sure.

Speaker 2 5:08

But this is exactly this quote, like I'm thinking these things I don't know these women, I don't know what they're doing, and they're out there doing something really freaking cool yeah and should they have any interest in what my thought is, or my opinion is? No, because I'm sitting in really cheap seats.

Speaker 1 5:29

Yeah.

Speaker 2 5:29

I'm in my car, not doing nothing, like who am I to even think like that? I just wanted to reverse that the other way. Yeah, because sometimes we're guilty of being the ones Everybody is.

Speaker 2 5:41

That boo, and we kind of got to stop and think of what seat am I sitting in? Am I in a real cheap seat to even be doing this? But then we also have to look at it from the other side too. When people are being critics of us, what seat are they sitting in? I just thought it was really good. I love that one.

Speaker 1 5:59

I need to. I thought it was a good one. And if you don't have haters, do something bigger. 92. I thought it was a good one. And if you don't have haters, do something bigger, commit to something bigger. You're going to have haters in life and that's okay. And just remember where the seats are coming from, all right. Second quote this is an old-timey one. You can tell If a man knows not to which port he sails, no wind is favorable. Let me read it again, because this is again like old school English, right, if a man knows not to which port he sails, no wind is favorable. You thinking about that one?

Speaker 2 6:37

Yeah, I just I mean, what it says to me is that, you know, we have to have direction. If we don't know where we're going, if we don't know where we're headed, no wind is favorable. Right, it doesn't help us, it doesn't hurt us because it doesn't matter. We don't know where we're going.

Speaker 1 6:56

It's like driving around aimlessly without having the destination plugged in, not knowing where you're at and not having a destination plugged into your GPS Right, and just driving around hoping that you get to where you think you want to go.

Speaker 2 7:10

Yeah.

Speaker 1 7:11

It's kind of the best example of that, sure.

Speaker 2 7:14

And so it's just clear to have that direction, which you know. We're getting ready to drop a podcast that really goes into finding what direction you want to go and what your mission statement is.

Speaker 1 7:26

Yeah, and that's a great episode. It's all about crafting a mission statement, with the importance of a mission statement, a purpose and having that thing.

Speaker 1 7:34

That kind of defines your North Star, and I think that this is a really good quote, um, that you need that in order to know where you're going yeah, and to know what to follow, to know what sale or to know where to put your sales up, so you can determine which wind is the right one to get you where you want to go all right, you ready to move on to number three?

Speaker 1 7:55

I think we also need to say that we just actually dropped an episode on this topic, right, and that it's all about a mission statement, crafting a mission statement, the importance of having one, how to do that, and so kind of call back to that episode. But if you haven't watched that one, definitely go watch it. You need a mission statement, you need a purpose to know how to get there. Um, or you're just kind of wailing in the wind yeah, drifting, that's a great, that's, that's the best, that's the best uh terminology. I love it.

Speaker 2 8:35

Just drifting, so yeah, just drifting. So yeah, if you want to have help working on that mission statement, reach out. Um, like chad said, we have a podcast that talks really about going through the whole thing of creating a mission statement, the importance of a mission statement, yep, um, so we'd love to share all that information. Let's move on to number three all right you ready. So don't wish it was easier, wish you were better I got it.

Speaker 1 8:58

This one reminds me of a story Parable, I guess, two lumberjacks, the parable of two lumberjacks, right. So you got a young, experienced lumberjack, older versus a strong young lumberjack. They're going head-to-head see who can cut down the most trees. They get started and the young lumberjack gets way out ahead. It's cutting down trees left and right. The older lumberjack is taking its time. It takes a break every hour. At the end, near the end of it, the young guy looks over and he's like how in the world have you cut down so many more trees than me and the old lumberjack?

Speaker 2 9:47

Especially because you were taking the breaks.

Speaker 1 9:49

Taking so many. Yeah, how did you do that, taking so many breaks? And the old lumberjack replies well, every time I took a break I was sharpening my axe. And that's to. That's like embodies that quote don't wish you were easier, wish you were better. You know, instead of looking for a shortcut to get through something, to get out of a situation, figure out how you can get better to get through it faster.

Speaker 2 10:16

And I think about when I hear that quote from our industry side. So you know, or really not just our industry and sales in general?

Speaker 1 10:26

Yeah.

Speaker 2 10:27

Like we're supposed to make a bunch of calls, we're supposed to reach out and talk to a bunch of people all of us and no one really loves doing it. No one wakes up every morning and they just are so excited they get to call this many people today or try to connect with this many people. They just don't. So you know, we're prone to wishing we didn't have to do that or wishing it was easier.

Speaker 1 10:50

Wishing we had some magic thing to say. Or yeah, you're looking for shortcuts, right?

Speaker 2 10:56

Yep, but instead we need to wish we were better. And how do we get better? And that is our skill sets or our sales skills. You know we've been talking a lot here recently about how these last several years have made our, our sales skills and as an industry whole, not that great right um, we haven't had to have them, we haven't had to meet them, and our dang axe has not been that sharp yeah we haven't had to sharpen it, and now we're at a point that we do like it is dull yeah, I know for a fact like I'm I need it.

Speaker 1 11:30

My sales skills need some serious work. Like I'm ranking them one out of ten, I'm probably sub five. I get by on, uh, you know uh, connecting with people or a friend, like the buddy sale or whatever, but my true sales skills, yeah, I mean I need, I need some work and I think we all do. I think both industries like really really lack skill development around sales and just like going all in on skill development and learning new skills and really perfecting that craft.

Speaker 2 12:02

Well, in the beginning says don't wish it was easier, and that means if it was easy everybody would be doing it.

Speaker 1 12:09

The only way to make it easier is to sharpen the axe.

Speaker 2 12:12

Yeah, but if it was that easy, everybody could do it.

Speaker 1 12:15

Yeah.

Speaker 2 12:17

Do we want everybody to be able to do it?

Speaker 1 12:19

I personally don't want everybody to do it. I mean, I could say I wish everybody do it. I know not everybody's going to do it, so it doesn't really matter. Yeah, you know.

Speaker 2 12:27

But Well, no, sales industry wants everybody to be in it, right, like you know, when we've gone through this massive, like it has cleaned out a lot of real estate agents. It's cleaned out a lot of real estate agents. It's cleaned out a lot of mortgage lenders who didn't have this. So you don't want it to be super oversaturated, and the only way it won't be is if it's not easy.

Speaker 1 12:47

Well, okay, so like NAR, settlement, right, a lot of people want it to get easier. The realtors want it to get easier, and the ones that are going to thrive and survive and not just survive, but thrive, take market share are the ones that are sharpening the axe and getting better and better. Yeah, great one.

Speaker 1 13:04

I think it's a perfect kind of interlude into the fourth, the last quote. You want to read it? Ok, you can forget what hurts you, but never forget what it taught you. You can forget what hurts you, but never forget what it taught you.

Speaker 2 13:22

The forget what hurt you is important, right, like sometimes people hold on to what hurt them for so long, yeah, and they carry so much. It is okay to forget what hurt you.

Speaker 1 13:36

Totally.

Speaker 2 13:37

But what it taught you is what you got to hold on to and gosh, I mean, that's the journey of life, right Is the hard, the lessons that come from it and being able to look back. What's that, what's something that's happened or what is how does that resonate to you?

Speaker 1 13:55

uh, it makes me think of my divorce you know it's been a long time, but I've not been uh shy of talking about it that I was married once before and divorced and uh like it was pretty shitty to go through at the time. Um, so like it hurt. You know, uh made me think about all the stuff that maybe I did wrong, uh, and I just had a whole lot of um feelings, uh, you know it's easy to have.

Speaker 1 14:22

A lot of feelings pain around that, and that's okay. So I wanted to get through that as fast as possible, right? But man, it taught me so many lessons about being a better what, what a healthy marriage looks like. You know what being a better husband looks like, and I'm still working on that every single day. But I think if I didn't go through that, I wouldn't have have had the experience to be able to look and be like I'm going down the wrong path here. You know I've learned a lot of lessons from that, so I can try to course correct faster, cuz I'm gonna make a whole lot of mistakes. I'm not perfect by any stretch, but it def I'm better off because of it.

Lessons Learned Through Adversity

Speaker 2 14:59

Yeah, yeah. I think that you just you know, we've said that so many times too about the Buffalo, the you're either're either going into a storm, you're in the middle of a storm, or you're coming out. Every stage of life, every stage of life and the storms are what teach us. No one likes to go through them. Yeah, number three and number four are really intermingled, because storms aren't easy, you know, that's like number three, but what was the buffalo story?

Speaker 2 15:28

just for those that haven't heard it, because I think that yeah, so the buffalo is the only animal out there that actually runs into a storm head, first head first.

Speaker 2 15:38

and why do they do it? Because they just know the sooner I run into it, the sooner I'm going to get on the other side of it and come out of it. And whereas you know a cow is going to either hunker down and just weather the storm or they're going to try to walk before the storm and they're just going to be in it for so much longer, a buffalo is like nope, we're going to it, we're going to meet this thing head on. And so there's storms and they might hurt, but we have to learn to remember what they taught us and not hold on to the pain. But pain's good, because pain teaches us a lot. If we don't have any pain, we don't learn a whole lot.

Speaker 1 16:16

Yeah, do you think there's any lessons there? Just from a pure sales perspective?

Speaker 2 16:23

You know, for me recently, one of the things that I've gone through in the last couple of years I mean our industry swang from one extreme to the other.

Speaker 1 16:33

Yeah.

Speaker 2 16:34

So we went from. We couldn't work enough hours, I couldn't hire enough people to take care of all of business, because rates dropped, people were buying, people were refinancing. It was insane, and I mean, I was begging everybody to work as much overtime as possible because rates dropped, people were buying, people were refinancing. It was insane. I was begging everybody to work as much overtime as possible. We were killing ourselves to keep up when rates quickly swing the other way. No matter what I could do, I couldn't do enough loans to be able to keep everybody.

Speaker 1 17:03

Yeah, and I remember at that point how much pain you were going through.

Speaker 2 17:09

I love my people and not being able to myself control that or myself do more to be able to make it work, and going through that. Now I'm through that and everything's okay and every one of those people are great and and life turned out really, really well.

Speaker 1 17:27

Some of them are back with us, like um, but it taught me so many lessons, so many business lessons, so many things about what I want to do in the future and how I would do it differently, and I wouldn't have ever experienced, like I would never know those things until I had gone through something and it was hard yeah and it was one of the hardest things I've done I know it was, I know it was, um, I think just really simple, simplify it is like making, like getting rejection right when somebody goes with a different realtor, when somebody goes with a different lender, yeah, and you think that you did everything right, right, uh, instead of like looking at that rejection and just wanting to like move on to the next thing is to actually have some self-reflection as far as like, what did? What did that teach me? How can I get better? Um, is super important that we probably don't I know I don't probably spend enough time with that I start to blame, like, oh, they're an idiot or like you know, uh, like we've got a file in our, we have a file in one note that is all of our, uh, people that ended up using somebody else, and whether we call it nary is the dickheads. Yeah, sorry, I mean uh, just being really honest here, and that's the failure on my part.

Speaker 1 18:38

It's like, no, they went with somebody else, because I probably went with me they didn, didn't.

Speaker 2 18:47

I'm sorry. No, I love it.

Speaker 1 18:48

I love it, but that's yeah. So I mean, I think that that is. Maybe some of them were dickheads, but most of them I needed to learn from. I needed to do something better and sharpen again, kind of sharpen my axe a little bit. They do kind of go hand in hand, but that's what that one kind of reminded me of.

Speaker 2 19:12

I like it. I like it well, guys. Thanks so much. We hope that one of these quotes resonated with you. Um, we'd love to have you share any quotes that maybe have recently moved the dial, or even some quotes that you live by. Um, share them in the comments. That'd be a lot of fun to see what other people's are, since we're quote junkies I agree.

Speaker 1 19:24

I agree this was hard to down. I want to do this again at some point down the road. So if you guys like this, let us know, share it. We appreciate you so much. We'll see you next time.